Another Bank Holiday and more to come…

When you have decided the relationship is over, but you are still living in the same house the thought of more time together is hard to bear.

Some people describe living in the same house as you ex as lonely and isolating.  If you have children, it can be worse with decisions about what to do eagerly being discussed.   You know you are no longer invited to auntie’s or grandma’s house.  You may be expected to invent a task, mow the lawn, wash the car, do your tax return …

In another home it may be that your relationship is over and suddenly you are expected to ask your ex for money to take the kids to the cinema they are nagging you about.

I often hear about parents who are now taking an interest in their children when before the relationship ended one parent did all the running around to clubs now both parents are falling over themselves fighting to drive to swimming.

It is difficult to see a way out longer this situation goes on.  When the hurt and distress mounts, what do you do?  You really need to talk together to sort everything out.  What starts as an opportunity to have a discussion about the way forward can be difficult to manage with the emotions of knowing the relationship is over and the consequences of not seeing your children or having to leave the home you have worked hard for.

When couples are living in the same house it can be harder to find the right time to talk away from the children, than for those already separated.  Coming to mediation sessions can be that safe and private space with the mediator there to help you both.

If you want to try mediation contact us at Mediated Dispute Solutions on 020 7993 6856.